I did a big fb-defriend lately, where I unfriended people I hadn’t talked to since hs/college graduations, or people who I don’t normally chat with on a semi-normal basis. I decided that it was kind of weird of ME to creep on them via pictures only, and also would be weird for him/her to creep on me via pictures and fb content only, as well.
Social media is very odd, because you can learn about the person by looking at his/her wall posts, photos, and what other people write on fb walls. There is a disconnect, though, because you don’t really KNOW the person on a personal level. At best, you can see any drastic changes (funky hairstyles, major weight gain/loss, fashion re-vamping, an emergence of a new hobby), and decide to judge or not just him or her based on the content you see. Or, maybe you will be jealous of that new job he or she got. Maybe you will be jealous of what cool city he or she lives in, or what delicious restaurants he or she eats at! Maybe you will wish you went to xyz awesome vacation spot, and covet the money he/she has. Or, maybe you will snicker at his or her shortcomings or judge him or her based on the types of pictures he/she is tagged in. I am guilty of all of the above! Just not the job part, haha.
Lately, a few people have requested to re-friend me. I wonder how they even noticed I had de-friended them?
Funnily enough, for almost all these people I have yet to have another real, one-on-one conversation with them. The last time I saw or spoke to one of these people was probably years ago. YEARS, guys. And most of the time, being fb friends again or not being fb friends again, doesn’t usually compel ME to strike up a conversation with him or her again, nor him/her with me. sooo…what’s the use of fb friend access?
Maybe she/he wanted to “like” a post (or roll his/her eyes and think, I can’t believe she got engaged to HIM, or can’t believe he got engaged to HER) or get updates on me to satisfy their curiosity without having to strike up a conversation. What’s the point of having fb access to someone, if you don’t care enough about him/her to initiate real conversation? Is it just for nosiness’s sake?
I’m not sure. but it’s weird to me….